Tag: BIG MOOD

harperhug:

captain-pride:

Trauma often messes with one’s ability to say “no”. 

You either consciously or subconsciously think, “I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings” or “If I say no, then they’ll hurt me” or “It won’t really be that bad” or “I can handle this” or “I need to do this to prove myself” or “I deserve this”, or you forget that “no” is even an option.

It’s still not your fault if you didn’t say “no”, even if you think maybe you could have. It’s still not your fault. You didn’t deserve what happened to you and you didn’t bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.

I just cried when I read this. Thank you.

allieboomer:

cptsdwillgraham:

beebunny:

here’s an idea: notice toxic trends in your behavior and, idk, change them

the fact that people are complaining on this post that they can’t change their behaviors that hurt others because they have x mental illness and We Can’t All Be Neurotypical Karen is absolutely fucking wild. do you realize your arguments have come full circle to being indistinguishable from the most crude, generic “mentally ill people are inherently dangerous and/or abusive” ableist rhetoric? you always have the agency to address the ways in which you are hurting others (or yourself). maybe not instantly. maybe not effortlessly. but it IS within your abilities and it is something you owe to your community and yourself

I spent half a year being a toxic shit to the people I love. And guess what? I stopped. I changed. They told me what I was doing was shitty so I did everything I could to change that, because I knew that if I didn’t, I would lose them. And it was HARD. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but it was worth it. Know why? Because they’re worth it. And because I know now that because I’ve been able to examine myself and change my behavior before, I’ll be able to do it again.