The Food and Drug Administration: Tell the FDA: Disinterest in Sex Shouldn’t Be Treated With A Pill

theasexualityblog:

hippity-hoppity-brigade:

aceflibanserintaskforce:

Please take a moment to view and sign this petition and consider forwarding it/signal boosting it. It takes only a few moments of your time and will cost you no money.

This is vital to the ace community and your participation is greatly appreciated.

we just need a few signatures now, but pls be aware of this issue. aside from the backlash against the ace community if people expect us to be able to “fix” ourselves by taking a pill, this is also a huge problem for women who are expected to deliver sex to keep their place in the kyriarchy.

flibanserin is not a “viagra for women.” a viagra that works on vaginas – sorry for the cissexism – would directly affect the performance of the sexual organs. flibanserin is made to directly increase the desire, not the body’s functions. this pill conforms to the social expectation that women must give sex; and if they have no desire to do so, then their desire must be increased.

the drug itself has been a shitshow from beginning to end. first off, the drug is made for women but the fda-required study was performed on 23 men and 2 women.

the fact that low sex drive can be caused by taking other medication has been pretty much ignored, as have other options of sex therapy besides drugs. no one on the board took a survey of sexual activities, expectations, or safe practices – only emphasized that women felt ashamed that they were telling their husbands ‘no’ when they asked for sex. they felt further anxiety because their husbands often threatened to leave them.

so obviously the answer is drugging women into wanting sex, right? (/sarcasm)

a group of sexologists and therapists have called for the fda to withdraw its initial approval. there were only two sexologists present at the presentation to the fda; most of the other doctors presenting patient anecdotes about low sex drives were connected to the company’s PR campaign.

the drug barely even works. ignoring for now the fact that they were testing on people with HSDD – a “disorder” that many in the ace community feel is pathologizing asexuality – only 9-15% of each test group reported any change in desire to perform sexually activity with their partner. but 21% reported depression.

additionally, “In an alcohol interaction study performed at the request of the FDA, flibanserin alone was
more sedating than the equivalent of four alcoholic drinks.” that’s what they want to give to women so they’ll want to have sex.

the petition page has a very well-written argument against the drug, including:

Marketing of flibanserin to clinicians will encourage misdiagnosis and mistreatment of people on the asexual spectrum.

Since medical and mental health professionals are generally not educated about our community, it is not uncommon for our low sexual desire to be “treated” even when it is not the cause of our distress. The approval and subsequent marketing of flibanserin will exacerbate this issue, sending an amplified message to the medical community that variations in sexual desire are a condition to be treated rather than a form of natural diversity to be understood and respected.

basically this drug is terrible and the reasoning behind it is terrible and the expectation that women need to take pills in order to please their husbands is terrible, terrible, terrible. please keep an eye on this issue because pharm companies are hard to stop, and there’s no doubt that it will come up again – if not with this drug, then with another.

ALL OF THIS!!!

THIS IS WHY THIS PETITION IS SO IMPORTANT.

Ty vs JD

iamderekhale:

nivahlpassions:

Let’s not forget that Tyler Hoechlin left Teen Wolf first to follow his dreams but also because Mr. Jeff Davies couldn’t/wouldn’t give Derek a decent story and treated him like a piece of meat.

So, the fact that Jeff now tells the fans to tweet Tyler to “move his ass back to Teen Wolf” to save his own (ass) is absolutely direspectful and ironic.

Left Tyler alone. It’s his life and he will do what he chooses with it.

Jeff…

Guys, seriously! I haven’t seen any one doing this yet, but if you are harassing Tyler so he’ll return to the show – DON’T. I’m serious, don’t fucking do it. We’re talking about an actor who was UNHAPPY with his previous work placement, who clearly felt like the only thing he was good at when it came to Teen Wolf was walk around half naked for millions of people to look at. Tyler HATED being objectified and that was really what he got for 4 whole seasons.

No matter how sad you are about Derek not being in the show anymore, you have NO RIGHT to turn to a person, who is clearly so sweet and kind, and make him feel like he’s in the wrong. This is psychological manipulation, this is disgusting. And Jeff is a horrible, gross person for putting Tyler on the spot like that, for basically dumping the blame on him and now watching from the sidelines people who used to call him out on his bullshit and how disrespectfully he treats his actors now turning to Hoechlin instead.

Hoechlin chose to leave to go search for something good for his life and career. This does not mean he doesn’t appreciate us fans or Derek (he so clearly does), it just means that, like everyone else, he can’t stomach doing something that does not fulfill him and that inevitably makes him feel bad about himself. If you adore him as much as you say, then fucking RESPECT him and respect his choices. He is not a machine here to please us and abide to our wishes. He is HUMAN. And Jeff pulling this fucking bullshit just shows us once more how low of character he is.

DO NOT HARASS HOECHLIN. DO NOT ATTACK HIM WITH MESSAGES ASKING HIM TO COME BACK. DO NOT BE FUCKING PRICKS. If you want to say something to anyone, go fucking tell Jeff that to be a loved and respected boss you first have to be a good person.

muvaearth:

The fact that students will really commit suicide bc of failing grades shows how much unnecessary pressure is put on young adults to figure out what they want to be in life

stop teaching young people that failure isn’t an option or is unacceptable..that kind of discouragement is so harmful

doctorcrocker:

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who don’t or can’t write the 50k fan-fictions, because of a lack of focus or motivation, or mental illness.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who don’t or can’t write smut, but are still lumped into a group that is almost expected to write smut.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who can’t update chapters frequently for maybe a multitude of reasons, and get messages daily from people asking for “their” new chapter.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who aren’t big name fans and hardly get ten kudos or one comment on their fan-fictions.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who stay up all night editing and rewriting and don’t get much attention on their work no matter how much they feel like they promote their writing.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who don’t write a lot and are constantly asked to write more but can’t for whatever valid reason they have.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers who have the courage to post their writing online and only have it publicly made fun of for grammar or poor characterization.

Shout-out to fan-fiction writers for writing their fan-fiction, posting it online, and continuing to do it no matter how much or little attention they get, and constantly improving as a writer with every upload.

You all rock.

theplaceinsidetheblizzard:

People are allowed to be repulsed by sex.

People are allowed to be uncomfortable with nudity.

People are allowed to be uncomfortable with genitalia, their own or others.

There are so many reasons why people may feels this way, from dysphoria to being asexual to coping with sexual assault to just straight up that’s how they feel.

And that’s ok.

How To Report A Cyberbully on Tumblr

hssgame:

Dear Tumblr Community,

We’ve been receiving increasing amount of requests for help with cyberbullies. If you or anyone you know are getting unwanted messages, here is some advice for you!

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We love our fans and we hope you’ll all do your part to keep our fandom awesome!

Your Friends,

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vrann:

get-your-ass-in-the-impala:

ofgeography:

actualginnyweasley:

natnovna:

i was 14 and i was walking through a mall by myself at 12am after my shift at coldstone creamery lol and a bunch of men started whistling and meowing and getting really close to me and they kept asking me questions and i kept not answering until i didn’t know what else to do so i said “i’m only 14” and almost in unison they said “we don’t care” i was so fucking scared i didn’t know what to do and they kept talking about how i looked and how my body looked and what they would do i was on the verge of tears i was all alone in a huge mall i knew i couldn’t outrun them all i felt totally hopeless until a maintenance worker came up to all of us with a huge industrial broom in her hand, i thought she was going to yell at all of us for being in the mall after hours bc she probably thought we were all friends but instead she cursed all of them out in spanish, threatened to press a panic button on her belt and then proceeded to walk me to the basement garage and waited with me until my mom got there to pick me up she had a death grip on her cart the whole time and a face of steel she looked so strong and i just kept saying thank you and she kept saying not to thank her because she had to stop them.

that was the moment i realized women were the most important beings on this planet and we have to protect each other bc nobody else is going to, she didn’t even know me, we couldn’t even communicate that well because of the language barrier, she could have lost her job for waiting with me in the parking lot but she looked out for me when she didn’t have to, she had nothing to gain from it, i’m 21 now and i tell everyone this story even though it happened 7 years ago, what she did that night helped me form and shape lot of my beliefs early on.

i was at a grocery store really late one night and some old guy kind of eyed me as i walked out of the store next to this other lady. She and I made eye contact and i knew she was scared too. we loaded up our groceries into our cars as fast as possible and I had way more bags than her so she got done faster than me. I panicked because i was sure she was going to leave so i just hurried faster, shaking a little, and then i noticed she sat in her car, watching me and making sure nobody came near. She waited not until all my groceries were loaded, or until my cart was put away, or until I got into my car. No, she didn’t drive away until I drove away.

And that was the moment that I realized how much women need other women. That we can’t win this war without each other and we have to be looking out for each other, every second.

my last year in new york city, i got off the subway around 9 or 10p.m. i only lived about 5 blocks from the f train, but i hadn’t gotten more than two before a woman’s hand suddenly touched my arm.

“that guy behind us is following you,” she said. “he was watching you leave the train car and followed you up.”

i hadn’t noticed him, or at least not noticed him following me. when we stopped outside a grocery store, he stopped half a block back and loitered. the woman linked her arm with mine and walked me several blocks out of her way to my front door and made sure i got inside safely.

another time, nocigar and i were walking home and at a stoplight a stranger grabbed my arm when i wouldn’t respond to him and tried to physically drag me over to him. she—who is, by the way, not a very physically imposing girl—ripped his hand off my arm and snarled, “don’t fucking touch her.”

protect your friends. protect strangers. there are good men in the world, but don’t wait for them to do something if you can do it yourself.

I was at a club once and my friend left with her boyfriend so I finished my drink and was heading out to the parking lot when three girls came up to me and basically surrounded me.

“Those guys behind us were talking about following you. We can walk with you.”

I have MMA training but have never in my life had been offered the protection and sanction of my own gender. This is so important.

One my college campus I was walking to the bus stop in order to go home. It is a rather long walk and it was very dark. I wanted to get there as fast as possible cause I really hate walking by myself.

This was startled when another woman came up behind me and stood next to me. I have always been weary of all people cause I’m hoh but she smiled and carefully said, “there is someone following us, I think we should walk together.”

I hadn’t heard it, I didn’t see any. I made it to the bus stop and finally could see our stalker. He waited there for a few minutes before he seemed to just disappear. We stood, arms linked waiting for the bus together and boarded. It didn’t matter that we didn’t have the same language. We were protecting eachother. Always protect eachother. Always.

spicy-vagina-tacos:

spicy-vagina-tacos:

heres to my size 3-8 girls. heres to my slightly squishy ladies who, whenever they have shown the slightest discomfort in their bodies, have been shut down immediately because “i would kill to have a body like yours!!!!!” “shut the fuck up youre so skinny wtf” “youre not gonna get all gross and anorexic are you?”

heres to my girls with skinny arms but a chubby belly. heres to my girls with a double chin but impossible waistline. heres to my girls with thick thighs and a flat butt. heres to my girls with disproportionate bodies. heres to my girls who were never “skinny enough,” or “big enough.” heres to you. youre fucking flawless.

Source: makutyte

alljustletters:

turntechgarlicbread:

sociologyandlifting:

When are we going to stop pretending girls don’t have hair on their boobs, between their boobs, around their nips, on their ass, on their upper lip, between their brows, on their cheeks, etc?

On their belly, on their toes, on their back, literally everywhere men grow hair

humans grow hair everywhere except on the palms of their hands and soles of their feet. this hair can rank from light blond and soft to dark and wiry, regardless of sex or gender of the person. shaving all of it is a mess and plucking it hurts like hell. humans are just animals with less thick fur. you wouldn’t shame a female animal for having as much fur as a male one, so stop doing that with humans.